Here's another reminder how we set ourselves up for failure due to ego. It's why I decided to share a conversation (below) where a friend of a friend, apparently, got a tad irritated with me for sharing my awareness and blocked me. Let me explain further. A friend posted a question on social media about how much should someone charge for healing energy work. She also commented that she had been going through psychic attacks for a few years with no relief - no matter what she did. I know this, personally, because we have talked a few times about what she was going though. As a metaphysical teacher, I offered free advice in what she could learn - in order to help herself - to empower her. I had also advised her, in private, to be careful of any healer (or exorcist) who couldn't prove their worth. This warning was due to people writing me about the ones they've encountered who were unscrupulous.
In addition, she had posted a link for someone she was interested in but said she was very expensive. To me, price is important but so is the service provided as well as the results. Don't say you can do something and then not do it, much less keep gouging (or blaming) your client. The worse case of gouging I had ever heard was years ago when a woman wrote me that she had spent over 10,000 dollars with a psychic healer and with no results. Unbelievable!
Anyway, I digress. My initial reply to her post was in regards to her concern about spending money and sensing she didn't want to be taken advantage of due to this person's high fees as well as stating nothing in the past had worked for her. This led me into a conversation with another person regarding healing ethics and awareness. I don't think he appreciated my education, versus his, because the discussion ended with his blocking me. Why? I felt my comments were logical and presented in a very unemotional and non-threatening manner, as they generally are when I'm sharing what I've been taught.
I'm glad I still had his replies, via emails, to capture them for this blog. Hopefully, by sharing our conversation, it will help those who are seriously wanting to help others. There are many things that need to be understood. Many! One of them is not displaying a knee jerk reaction while discussing any differences in metaphysical awareness. How does this educate anyone? If my awareness is different from another's, I feel discussing both helps open the door of understanding, not by running from it. In fact, that's how I learned - by questioning everything until I was satisfied with the answers. It had to add up - make sense - be logical. Anytime, I can learn a more efficient or more thorough way, I feel blessed not threatened.
~~~~~ Conversation
Me: I look at it this way, we buy products with a return guarantee if it doesn't work. If you go anywhere with anyone, you should have it in writing that your money will be refunded if it doesn't do the job. Just a suggestion.
He: I'd say this is subjective. Not if the product doesn't work because of the client. If the client pays, I do the work, and they block themselves from being healed or allowing the treatment to effect them. It's not the providers fault.
You'd be amazed at how many "non-believers" will pay for a treatment to see if it works. Hence why I won't take on that kind of client.
And some holistic results take time. Eastern medicine and holistic approaches are not band aids or quick fixes. To many variables for your question to have a simple answer.
Me: Then the person isn't good at their job because they would have asked the universe permission before beginning. Hence no errors anywhere. Job done. Everyone's happy.
He: A client can grant permission AND block themselves.
Not the practitioners fault. Which is why one should not treat someone closed off REGARDLESS of permission.
Me: Even a licensed doctor would know their drawbacks and guarantees (or none) but miracles have been known to happen.
Too many times I've heard it's the person's fault and never the practitioner. Seriously? Sounds like a flaw to me. Not getting the right permission. That would be like a doctor operating blind. Sets one up for malpractice then.
He: l'm not sure judging someone's ability is the best way to apron this either.
Doctors are different. Energy work is different. Reiki is universal divine energy. I am a humble vessel or conduit. It flows through me and does what it needs to do. It is not my place to tell the divine what to do. If that doesn't work for you, you don't have to go to an energy worker. It's quite simple. Energy work should never and could never hurt anyone.
Me: Which is why I said if you ask universal permission, everyone's on the same plate for using that divine energy for healing. That's what I was taught by my teachers. They're not from here. It was the first thing I was taught because not all answers to prayers will be positive.
He: Sure. And all I am saying is that humans can block themselves from receiving even while giving verbal permission. That's all.
And I agree. Not all answers are deemed "positive" due to general human perspectives.
Me: It's illogical to think that someone gave permission and then blocked their healing. It's not always the person but could be someone around them. That's who I would direct my thoughts to when it came to asking permission too. What if their guide says no because this was a major lesson they needed? Something they may have chosen before coming here. Lots of things to consider why someone is blocked.
He: Or maybe it's none of our business why their experience is the way it is because we're just supposed to be there for them to either provide or not provide. But I feel like this discussion will never end because you need to be right while I am simply trying to have a conversation. So I will and my participation here knowing that you will continue to do the good work that you do and I will continue to do the good work that I do regardless of who is right or wrong in their work.
Me: Hmmm. I thought I too was having a conversation but being judge by you in needing to be right. Interesting. Our universal guidance is definitely different.
He: Not to mention the fact that you have steered this conversation SO far from her question that you have buried her intention away from its original intent. Enjoy your evening.
Me: Which isn't true either.
He: Apparently so. Apparently it is. Interesting that we are both hearing judgement on each other's responses.... Hmmmmm
About pricing? Yeah. Ok. Love and light to you.
Me: My original comment stands. You intercepted it. People should be weighed on their merits. I wouldn't hire any professional with a bad reputation or wanting to steal my money. It's the right thing to do. We need more metaphysical people who feel this way. We would have less ego issues within it. Working together as a team instead of egotistically opposing another. That's why this profession fails and is constantly mocked.
Hugs and peace to you and yours.
He: Well there we agree. I personally see a vast difference in your original statement and your last one. Together as a team sounds lovely.
Me: It's really not a difference if you think about it. It still dealing with those who choose to take another's money when they, as enlightened beings, will not be able to help in any way due to universal awareness or interference. Yet, will they take their money still or offer refund if they err? They may blame their victim in being the cause of the problem to avoid responsibility. They are the ones who create problems by undermining the good being done by others. But, isn't that the way it is generally?
No need to respond or agree. Just throwing it out there.
He: no need - (Meaning I didn't need to throw it out there - then he blocked me.)
Me: Sorry _______ (friend), I guess ________ (he) decided to delete his responses and/or block me. Bad form, since I thought I was only sharing what I've learned. I also thought that being respectful and sharing was part of opening our awareness and removing ego to help us be more educated - more open minded. Even a mild debate helps educate us but some tend to get their feelings hurt even with that. Makes me wonder why. Must have hit a nerve. However after getting tons of emails from people, over many years, who have been gouged by unscrupulous "psychic healers," I think it's only appropriate to start believing that something's not working and try to figure out why. Maybe it's only people scamming those who need help the most, which makes it bad for the good ones who are trying to seriously help. Sadly, this can be in any profession. You'll just have to follow your intuition and hope for the best. Hugs ♡
Friend: Quite the intense discussion! Wasn't expecting all that. :p
Me: Well, you know how I feel about people who say they provide a lot and give nothing. Then blame their "patient" in order to take the blame off of them. I don't even like that when a medical professional isn't honest. At least, lay the cards on the table, be honest, so I can make a proper decision for my wellbeing.
~~~~~ End
So there you have it. I've come to realize that in nearly 30 years of learning this metaphysical awareness, and through personal experience, that we don't know everything and sharing our awareness, as in any profession, is important. Many times, it's not the questions we're asking but the questions we don't know to ask. It's why I advise people to join support groups and suggest to all my like-minded friends that we are all pieces of the puzzle when it comes to helping one another. Each person may have that one piece in solving the complete picture.
When our ego gets in the way, we shut down and that's why we fail. We fail because we give our power away to others to heal us but blame them when they don't. We fail because healers, any form of healers, are often limited in knowledge but blame the patient for their lack of success: "he was too far gone." We fail because we allow our ego to block awareness from another because they don't fit in some stereotypical image we have mentally formed of a spiritual teacher. We fail on purpose, unconsciously sabotaging ourselves, because we don't want to live forever in the same body.
The door closes - the light goes out - life goes on - better luck next time. Maybe.
