Eternal Victim-Victimizer

I've been meditating on this situation regarding those who become a victimizer after being a victim themselves. It's always baffled me why this occurs, considering everything, but I believe I may have discovered a reason. 

Metaphysical people talk about soul connections when it comes to love but this particular situation would be one created out of hate. Many things can create the reason for hate, just as it can love.

For instance, when a victimizer, after justly paying for its misdeed, isn't allowed atonement, isn't allowed to heal, neither will its victim heal. I believe, it's because their emotional memories are eternally connected due to the misdeed; just as our emotional memories are eternally connected due to loving situations.

Many times, it is the deep, painful memories that can cause more damage to prevent healing. Hurt people want to hurt people in order to have others feel their pain. Judgement? Karma? Yet, many times we may, unknowingly, contribute to it.  Constantly and/or publically berating the victimizer, reiterating the crime, may keep the victimizer from healing. If the victim survived, it may also pick at their painful wound (memories), or reopen the wound, to also have the victim continually suffer and not heal, possibly weakening them, mentally, in the process. Both victimizer and victim are in an emotional connection turmoil.

I believe this emotional connection eventually contributes towards turning a victim into a victimizer, depending on the strength of their mind and soul. Being constantly and emotionally connected to a diseased mind may easily challenge another's mind if it's unaware.

Maybe it's folly on my part to think we can make a change, maybe we never will and will keep this scenario going on for all eternity. Hopefully, we can learn to break this connection by utilizing higher awareness. At least, more awareness than we've been using. I'm not suggesting trusting someone where it's not earned, liking someone when it's difficult, not condoning any crimes, or not seeking retribution, but utilizing more compassion and understanding to break this control over us all ... since, as we've been told, we're all universally connected.

I once had a student who asked me why we have right and wrong. I told him that we created these words to describe emotions within us. I suggested that since we created this scenario, we should learn to be wise enough to uncreate it, but that may take a higher knowing then we currently have. This was around twenty-five years ago and, it seems, we still haven't gotten it.

So you see, we have to know about this unseen realm, along with knowing how strong these dark emotional attachments can be. The vendetta that can be created due to our lack of understanding and compassion can be and has been detrimental.

How can we combat this if we don't raise our awareness?

If we don't, how can there ever be healing from this eternal circle of victim-victimizier?