This is one of my favorite pictures of her in the summer of 1965 because I took it. We were living in Virginia Beach at the time but shortly afterwards we moved to San Diego where dad was shipped immediately to Vietnam for his first tour of duty there. Not bad for having eight children at the time of the photo ... ranging from seventeen (me) to the twins who were five years old.
Monday, July 28, 2014
My Miracle Worker Mom
This is one of my favorite pictures of her in the summer of 1965 because I took it. We were living in Virginia Beach at the time but shortly afterwards we moved to San Diego where dad was shipped immediately to Vietnam for his first tour of duty there. Not bad for having eight children at the time of the photo ... ranging from seventeen (me) to the twins who were five years old.
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Taboo: Politics, Religion and Sex
Taboo: forbidden, not talked about.
I remember being in my high school study hall in 1966 and a few students around me got into a discussion about religion. Someone asked me a question about my religion but I didn't have an answer.
Another student asked that we changed the subject. He told us he didn't like talking about his three major taboo topics because it normally invoked an argument, if not worse.
Curious to know, we asked him what were the three things he didn't like to discuss.
He said: politics, religion and sex.
Sadly, it seems some things never change. Throughout history we have had major judgments and wars with these subjects. Amazingly, we respected his wishes to change the subject. I just wish more people were this understanding and polite today.
Why do we still have to be so barbaric?
We have internet friends who become internet enemies over these topics.
It's amazing how we chat and laugh but when the "taboo" subjects arise the disrespect begins ... via abusive and vulgar name calling, hateful maligning, snide innuendos, and distorting facts. The only difference from our past, is we hide behind computers for safety as people mentally terrorize others.
Yet, it still creates wars that causes loss of lives and property. For what? To prove something? Will we take that proof into eternity ... next lifetime? Did our ancestors?
Makes me wonder if our prejudices will eventually be removed by creating a world of no politics, religion and sex, among other prejudices, in order to remove arguments and wars.
Makes me wonder if hate will eventually destroy our planet because we couldn't remove our prejudices.
Makes me wonder if we didn't learned from our ancestor's history, when will we learn.
Makes me wonder.
Friday, July 25, 2014
Encouragement
Also, you might want to know this too, she was a spirit at the time. She had crossed over in 1977 and this occurred in the early nineties. I say "at the time" because I discovered that she incarnated some time ago.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Tolerance and Compassion
I just don't understand the hypocrisy of some people with their guilt-trip memes of "please have compassion for whatever cause" or have tolerance to whatever cause," etc., but when it's negated in anyway, for whatever reason, they unfriend or ostracize.
Because a flaw was presented for discussion?
Even when I share my personal experiences, done with kindness, I've been met, at times, with such anger and hostility that's it's shocking. I've questioned myself many times: where did that come from?
Did they not understand that by sharing their idea, even if it's a meme, it may reap contradiction?
Is it the mentality of: you don't agree with me so you must not be my friend?
I think: hmmm, where's the tolerance and compassion now?
Many times, I choose not to say anything because my intuition tells me it will be met with hate and prejudice. Sometimes I venture forward, hoping I won't get blasted for sharing my feelings. It still happens because I know I'm dealing with their prejudices.
They're not open to suggestions.
They only want compassion and tolerance ... not give it.
Yet, shouldn't social media help with perspectives, to see another side to a situation, open doors to our minds, so we're not left with just our thoughts ... just our opinions?
Many times I've said: ah-ha, I never thought about that -- or -- thanks for sharing.
As a Facebook friend said once: It's important that we have a free discussion on topics like this. Solutions are possible when thinking people exchange ideas and not fists.
Compassion and tolerance shouldn't be lip service. We don't have to agree with everything everyone does or says. No one should expect that. However, if we shut the door to another's opinion, we may close off our minds to a deeper self-awareness, or internal growth, because of something that is triggered within us.
If I don't necessarily agree, I politely leave the conversation or don't choose to get involved, especially if I see hate. To each their own. However, a few times of practicing compassion and tolerance, by not unfriending someone, I saw a dramatic change in opinions ... an awakening within both sides. Mutual understanding and respect bloomed.
It's not about sides. Tolerance and compassion is about understanding and respecting ... or trying to.
Sadly, it isn't always to be though. If they're stalkers and vulgar haters, then sure ... delete and block ... for peace of mind ... for self-respect.
I do what I can to be respectful ... agree to disagree. Move on and away. But as long as people are being polite in sharing their opinions, to unfriend them or send invisible daggers through the universe is immature.
It's also intolerant and lacks compassion.
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Immigration: Compassion vs Wisdom
The current immigration news is nothing new to America's history. What's new is the media coverage of it is more widespread, including outside our country. Also, fairly new is the countries that are lying to their people that our doors are always opened.
Illegally?
This current anger and hate isn't new either. Doing genealogy helped me understand ancestral history. A lot of nations fled persecution and starvation ... coming to America to seek help but were still persecuted once they arrived ... and most came legally. In the past, we have had English, Irish, Chinese and Puerto Ricans, Japanese as well as Cubans, Haitians, Mexico and Central/South American ... just to name a few of the very many. Along with the indigenous and their persecution due to immigration.
Cultures as well as religions sought freedom here but all had their fair share of problems once they arrived. We are a multicultural and multi-religious nation living under one nation's laws. This can create a multitude of emotional turmoil.
However, what once was doesn't mean it has to be the same, especially when times have changed along with different circumstances since the poem was placed on the Statue of Liberty in 1903. The poem was certainly not meant as an open invitation to go against our nation's immigration laws or as a club to beat us into submission.
Wisdom and reason are important to sustain and not destroy. That's why all countries promote legal immigration ... ALL ... to hopefully maintain financial stability within its framework.
Anyone's who's ever had to make or live under a budget will understand this.
That would be no different then having one person move in your home, but one isn't enough, let's make it two, three or twenty. Eventually we may become unable to sustain ourselves, much less others that are within our home that we are required to now provide for, including medically ... especially if they are not employable and cannot help out financially ... especially if we get sick and lose our ability to provide as well.
Even if it's not completely failsafe, we put borders up the same way we put houses up ... for protection against invasion. So we can hopefully feel somewhat secure with our possessions and the protection of our family.
It's easy for some people to judge because they're not living it or never lived it. Hypocrites who are living in their fanatical fantasies ... seeing only one side to a situation. Possibly reacting to the emotional fear of others who are desperate ... reacting to those emotions as if they are their own. Owning them because they are unaware that their emotions don't always have borders to protect them against unreasonable and subjective thinking.
Furthermore, it's easy for any person, city or country to suggest that someone else take care of people, especially when their resources aren't involved. Placing guilt trips on others with internet memes to provoke compassion while removing themselves of any personal involvement.
Want me to open my heart? Then open your purse.
If we kept allowing people to use our compassion against us, we would be the fools for allowing our destruction.
Destruction of a country.
Destruction of a city.
Destruction of ourselves.
Trickle trickle trickle ....
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Forgiveness vs Permission?
Anyway, it still makes sense to ask permission, whenever possible, as I was taught. Yet, I can see where asking forgiveness may be equally necessary.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
Meditation: Blending Knowledge and Wisdom
Many times, when asked, I've explained the importance in the need to calm one's energy to many who are so wired and out of control but say they are looking for answers.
Sunday, July 13, 2014
Dual Loyalty Suffering
Dual loyalty is loyalty to two separate interests that potentially conflict with each other. These loyalties have been known to cause hurt, frustration, anger, separation, battles, and death.
Especially when picking a side.
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Examples...
Being loyal to the country one resides and being loyal to the country where one was born.
Being loyal to one's spouse and being loyal to one's child.
Being loyal to one's faith and being loyal to one's government.
Being loyal to facts and being loyal to fantasy.
Being loyal to one's father or being loyal to one's mother.
Being loyal to one's friends and being loyal to oneself.
Being loyal to a patient's health and being loyal to insurance that dictates coverage and paying.
Being loyal to one's job because of a paycheck and being loyal to one's desire to be free.
Being loyal to one's intuition and being loyal to one's mind.
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Have you experienced any form of dual loyalty? This was a few scenarios that came to my mind.
The thing about dual loyalty is what it can create. It's a main reason why we suffer ... why our world suffers.
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Age of Stupidity
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Sewer Mentality
A remark that was used, when I was younger, to reflect someone's state of mind, maybe from drug or alcohol abuse, was: living in the gutter.
They've sunk low.
Sometimes we would say that they may have gone beyond help and were in the sewer.
They've sunk lower.
Based on a lot of observation, this is how I feel about a lot of reckless, hateful, and uneducated comments and memes today being tossed around the Internet.
What's worse is these things are still believed even when information is shown to prove otherwise.
People are stooping so low, I'm surprised they can see the sun from where they are.
It's amazing, due to how "in the dark" they are, that they actually think they're impressing educated people. It makes me wonder what kind of destructive flow or curse would create that sewer mentality and why.