Controlling Manipulating Children

Young parents are finding out how their manipulating childhood days are coming back to haunt them. They are seeing their children doing the same ... creating a frustrated and, sometimes, victimized parent.

 

Don't become a victim because of your children.

 

The majority of children are smarter than you think. Diagnoses of a child's mental or physical ailments can be used against you. They can use guilt and love against you. They can find your weakness and play on them. Divorce or parental arguments can be used against you. Even screaming in public places to embarrass you. All of these things are a power control. 

 

I've even been feeling, through observation, that "sensitive children" are sensing parent's weaknesses faster.

 

I'm not saying all, but a great majority of them start learning rather fast how to manipulate their parents and peers. They have even been known to discuss this among friends at an early age ... including using meltdowns.

 

Yes, kids talk about this stuff.

 

Are you hurting from their behavior?

 

Are you giving them the sword?

 

I have watched this in many children over many years, including my siblings and my children. I have been guilty of the same in my younger years. I speak from many years of wisdom based on personal observation. Too many permissions, given to any child to keep them from bothering you, illicit future headaches and heartaches. Once they see they can get away with something, they will wear you down with it ... over and over again.

 

Wear ... you ... down!!

 

Give them an inch and they'll take a mile.

 

When they become hormonal teens, all hell breaks loose and you'll be wondering who allowed this monster into your home.

 

Yes, there are exceptions to every rule. However, you can Internet search it to see that it's nothing new. The good thing is, parents can retaliate and not reward bad behavior. Tough love doesn't mean beating your child senseless but strong, loving, and meaningful discipline.

 

They will get over it ... seriously.

 

Besides when or where did parents' manipulating skills begin? We learned them as a child. Remember? Did you forget how to use them? Use rules to get what you want. So when those teen years arrive, hopefully, you'll be on equal footing. If you wait until then, to establish rules, it's too late. As my mother often reminded me: discipline starts in the cradle.

 

It's time to break the cycle ... the parent curse!

Teenagers! Beware of the Parent's Curse! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N3Xci-hygC0

Don't ever give up. There are answers for everything but you may not be asking the right questions to the right people.

This is a good website to read for empowering parents: Masters of Manipulation: How Kids Control You With Behavior http://www.empoweringparents.com/Manipulative-Child-Behavior-How-Kids-Control-You-With-Behavior.php#ixzz33FVSE1SL

 

Or ... you may not have learned what I learned from my dad ... the parental stare to instill fear (picture). Just a little levity to help you smile. We all need that. ;-)