I'm sure, by now, most have heard this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson: "It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that you cannot sincerely try to help another without helping yourself."
If not, then surely this saying resonates: For whatever a man sows he will also reap.
Helping another can reap rewards.Yet, most people cannot deal with another's life's crisis while trying to resolve their own inner turmoil. That is understood and acceptable. We all have to decide what battles to fight.
However, I wonder, if they help resolve another's situation, even if they have to use others to do so ... pushing past their own limits ... that they could possibly solve their own issues?
After all, aren't people crossing our paths in order to learn from them as they are to learn from us? To see things within them to help guide us? To reinforce or rearrange our truths within?
Many life's situations are presented for self analysis.
So maybe we should consider that when one "runs away" from another they could be psychologically running away from themselves. Something they may feel within they cannot look at or deal with due to inner sorrow or pain ... or fear.
This is not us leaving them, or allowing another to leave our path, with love.
Of course, there is that proverbial brick wall which is why we should utilize all help available and even then the wall may not budge. At least we tried; if that is the reason for crossing paths.
Each situation presents a course of action to participate or not. No one can give what they don't have to give and could inadvertently block another from helping if our "ego" bites off more then we can chew.
Yes, there are those feelings of such evil intent that all our senses say run the other way fast. That is self preservation and not the point being made. We cannot help another if we aren't around anymore. Those "animal instinct" feelings are guiding us to help ourselves in order to not be brought down.
This blog is about helping another as in paying it forward. You help someone and they get stronger to help another; even if you don't know this is being done. Then another person is helped and on and on.
It doesn't mean just financial help; help can be in lending a hand or a moment of your time.
Then, one day, a person comes into your life who helps you resolve an issue that you felt was insurmountable. You are grateful. However, what you may not have realized was this person was able to help you because some time ago, you set the wheel in motion by helping another.
You dropped that pebble in the pond to ripple out setting a flow of kindness and understanding, by putting your troubles aside. Hopefully, when the ripple hits the shoreline it reverses to come back at you and your help has arrived ... as long as that ripple isn't being blocked.
This is why situations are resolved ... yet some take time. It depends on how far the ripple has to go in order to return and what ego may be blocking it. It is still cause and effect, albeit not as fast as we may want. Don't give up, eventually blocks do get released.
Also, many times when one helps another, they take their mind off their troubles ... this is instant karma. The ripple is subtle but still there. A feel good situation that could even cause one to reflect on what was ailing them as something that wasn't as bad as they originally thought.
You just helped someone and in doing so you were also helped ... by yourself.
Ripples can be subtle as well as amazing and beautiful.
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