There is a really big difference in giving to someone or being taken from someone. We don't mind giving, at times, but we never like being taken in anything.
Constant demands from another can be a serious energy drainer ... commonly called Energy Vampires. Their repetitive patterns are the cause, which can be extremely debilitating; not just to those around them, but also themselves, especially when they can't see they are their own worse enemy.
They can't see the cause, because they are the cause ... they can't admit it to themselves. Everyone else is wrong and they are always right. They allow no room for conversation, to input any creative suggestions, in order to help either party to evolve beyond this negative rut.
A stalemate is created or someone drowns in the whirlpool of negative emotions.
My life's experiences have me constantly asking myself, wouldn't it be nice to know another's soul, and the programming they have within it, before getting involved? Only if nothing less then to say: I don't have the strength to take you on. It seems it would solve a lot of issues.
Extending a hand often, to the point it becomes expected, does not allow anyone to become self-sufficient. Knowing when to let go is vital. When I sense someone is not willing to grow, I let go. They're not helping, why should I?
Yes, sad to say, sometimes one has to be cruel in order to be kind.
Of course, if someone continues to stay in an energy draining relationship, then they should consider no blaming or whining about it. After all, they are allowing it. We always have choices.
We need to own up to those choices. Even if that means owning up to the fact that we may be using this person, that we blame for our miseries, for our personal gain ... whatever that entails.
I speak from personal experience. I had to owe up to my personal experiences and face up to the choices I've made, so I know how it feels.
To continue, please keep in mind, that those who have any type of user/abuser mentality, keeping someone emotionally locked into their energy draining schemes, may not hesitate in letting go of someone when they no longer serve their purpose. Plop! You're dropped in a second! Some are not so lucky to be dropped, because some may not escape the harshest of abusive scenarios ... death.
Wouldn't it be best to let go, to move on? Sometimes quitting is just as important as not quitting. Use common sense. Listen to your family and friends. Your guides may be using them to get through to you. Be kind to yourself and love yourself.
After all, the life you save could be your own.
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