Lay Down the Swords

When I was in my youth, I heard an expression: crossing swords with yourself. It meant you were actually fighting yourself but blaming others.

For instance, you whine that no one likes you but you do everything to make sure no one does. I can't get a date, but you stay home and watch TV. You complain that everyone judges you and you hate them for it, but instead of doing anything to improve the situation, you make it worse.

Do you want people to like you ... not judge you? Do you really want improvement to a current situation?

Then stop fighting with yourself and mean what you say.

Half the battle is won when you realize the problem. The other half is won when you resolve the problem.

Lay down the swords.