The Other Side of "Soul Mates."

I had an interesting dream this morning.

I was telling an angry, young man that his desire to have a soul mate "just like him" but then not wanting to have anything to do with her, after having her in his life, meant that they were possibly too similar and butting heads because of it. He needed to look at himself to find the reasons of his discontent.

This made me think of the expression: be careful what you ask for.

Maybe we should be more impeccable in asking the universe for a love life that is compatible and leave out the words ... soul mate.

Soul mates are past relationships that have crossed our paths a few times. Not all are lovers. They could have been only family or friends. Yet, being past lovers doesn't make it perfect either.

An ultimate soul mates (aka twin flame) could be a lot like us and been with us often as lovers, but they too could have moved on and may have changed out their feelings. They could have all that internal programming as we do, yet they could be as "determined" as we may be in everyday decision making.

That "internal fire" is only part of a relationship ... not all of it.

Some soul mates could be learning and haven't learned to balance their emotions. So asking for a soul mate "just like you" doesn't mean it will bring peace and harmony in one's life.

My dad's soul is an ancient soul, he wasn't one to be pushed. He didn't need to be angry ... his persona didn't permit reproach when be felt strongly about something, yet, being military, he understood authority outside of his ... he wasn't one sided and would listen to reason. A quality everyone should consider going into any relationship.

Being an old soul like that, I'm sure he had many, many soul mates ... some like him in personality. Under those circumstance, many differences of opinions could arise. Generally, it is the older souls, who have learned to reason and be in balance that may have more control, or understanding, of theirs or another's emotions.

However, we are all still human and can make mistakes and have disappointments. Just because someone's a soul mate doesn't mean it will be perfect or harmonious all the time.

Some may have moved on to a new or different experience out of necessity ... out of boredom ... not wanting the same soul mate over, and over, and over again. 

Soul mate or not, a relationship is like a job, you have to work to keep it.